Relationships

Don’t marry him if (aka the mother load)

How often have we said after the event “Why on earth did someone not tell me?”, as though when we are hell bent on a course of action any advice anyone gives us is going to make an iota of difference. Especially when that advice is coming from our mother and no matter how diplomatically put.

In my first unfortunate liaison, my mother was mindful of my feelings and subtle in her advice. She said “Don’t marry him, he’s a jerk.”

If only she could have been a little clearer.

Seriously though, as seasoned mothers, we know that if we strongly dislike our children’s beau (isn’t that a good word?) they will cling ever tightly to them. Take a more relaxed, laid back approach and unsavory couplings tend to come to their natural end as the common sense our child was raised with kicks in at some point.

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Relationships

Teach people how to treat you

I’m in a bad mood today.

Just TODAY, mum?

A friend of my daughter’s is letting some boy hit her; a relative is letting her boss intimidate her and some fool at Debenhams is trying to tell me that I cannot bring back a dress that obviously had the wrong size label sewn into it. I AM a size 8; I have always been a size 8; and I will forever more be a size 8. The 4-year old child serving me suggested I might want to consider a size 14. I suggested he might want to consider finding a Supervisor with more experience in dealing with mad, menopausal women.

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